I am sure the instances you declare are real life situations which you have experienced and that is regretful. However I have not uttered or thought seen such base behaviour, nor my sons and if they did I, their mother, or the person offended would hopefully smack or correct them there and then. The instances sound extreme. Do I live in a bubble of propriety or excessive decency? Tell someone to smile more? Call them prude or bitch? Dress code at the grocery store? Really? What kind of heathens do you hang out with? I don't deny the experience you have had and am saddened that occurred, but it is a very, very wide brush you paint with.